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Tuesday, February 8, 2011

Secondary Source

My cute niece is doing a project for school - a biography about my mom (someone still alive and sane enough to recall memories). I was her secondary source.

Q1: What is your favorite memory of your mom?

Oh, what to choose! I’m tearing up just thinking back through them! I think my favorite memory is Mom making grilled cheese sandwiches late at night when Roy would get home from football practice or a game. We would all hang out in the kitchen and chat – at a time much later than I should have been up. She would make me one too, if I asked. I just loved hanging out together – no competition, just enjoying being together.

Q2: Did your mom play with you and come to activities that you were in?

Mom didn’t really play with me – that’s why I had a sister! (However, she plays AWESOME with my kids now!) BUT – she was at everything that I was involved in: choir concerts, sports games, balsa wood competitions, pictures before dances, banquets – everything! It wasn’t even a question to me; how she sat through some of those l.o.n.g. boring games, I will never know!

Q3: Did your mom ever take you on trips? where?

We did trips to visit family throughout my childhood: one summer to Utah to visit mom’s family – the next to Florida to visit Mike’s family. We just knew that alternating years was the plan. We took a few trips in high school to San Antonio to watch Roy play football and eat at the most amazing Mexican Restaurant.

Q4: Did she ever forget about something that you were in that was important to you? What was it?

She didn’t really forget, per se, but she wasn’t able to fulfill the entire day: my 16th birthday. I realllllllllly wanted to get my driver’s license that exact day (I was one of the very youngest in my grade and one of the LAST to be able to drive) and had to wait until the next day – it felt like an eternity.

Q5: Is there any memories that you can think of that were embarrassing about your mom or something that she did?

I’m sure she was embarrassing at some point growing up, but she did a great job being around but not too involved. All my friends knew her and talked to her, but I can’t remember her ever outright embarrassing me. I was always pretty proud to be her daughter! One of my favorite things was to introduce her to my friends – “this is my mom, Mrs. Doerk.” They would always do a double take. I had a friend in elementary school named Julie. She introduced my mom (Mrs. Doerk) to her mom. Her mom got so mad at her for calling mom names! It took about 10 minutes of us all convincing her that really was mom’s last name. It made it fun!

Oh, I did just think of something. If I had been on the phone for a long time (typically with a boy), she would pick up the phone and say, “Lindsey, I need to use the phone.” That was as embarrassing as it got!

Q6: When you needed help on something did she think that she knew it but turns out that was not right? What was that?

Hahaha! That would be math and English – thankfully I had Nancy around to help explain! Mom would say they didn’t teach math that far when she was in school (more was discovered and solved after she graduated); I think she just took too many days off school to ski!

Q7: Did she like to embarrasses her kids for fun? About what?

Nope – I think she was proud of us. However, if it was just family around, she, Nancy, and Jamie liked to tease me about blossoming into a woman. Punks!

Q8: Did your mom make you do a instrument that you did not want to do? What instrument?

No, she didn’t. I really wanted to take piano lessons. However, the older kids (Rusty, Nancy and Roy) took them and rebelled. She decided it was too much work to get kids to practice and it wasn’t worth the battle anymore, so she said no. However, I am taking them now and love them! My teacher loves me because I am taking them because I want to and not because I have to.

Q9: How did your mom solve sticky situations?

I don’t know. I was never in any sticky situations…I was a perfect child (at least in my mind)! However, watching her from a more grown-up position, these are the things I have seen her do:
1. Pray
2. Discuss with Mike
3. Pray
4. Get educated about the situation
5. Pray – go to the temple
6. Make decision and act on it!
She doesn’t really discuss anything ‘sticky’ with anyone, except Mike, until she’s made a decision. Then we are informed.

Q10: Whats the thing that you love most about your mom?

Her complete love for me and my children. Her dedication to do what’s right, even if she doesn’t want to. Giving her opinion about what I should do, but then supporting whatever decision that I make. (Andy likes that she trusts him with stuff.)

Monday, January 31, 2011

It's the Little Things...

*Sigh* Most days are the same around here. Hurry through breakfast. Hurry through scriptures. Hurry to get coats and backpacks on. Hurry to the bus stop. Hurry to clean up breakfast before day's activities. Hurry to shower and get ready before Mitchell needs to eat or Emily brings him to me. Hurry to change diapers before showers start. Hurry to the car because we're late. Hurry, hurry, hurry. Some would tell me to get up earlier. Most days I am up between 4:30 and 5 to feed Mitchell. Sometimes I wake up Andy and we exercise (but we have to hurry so we can be done on time for him to get to school and so the kids don't get bored waiting for us after they wake up.). Sometimes I go back to sleep. Most times I go back to bed and think about all the things I need to do for that day. I think I just need to plan more - and then actually FOLLOW THROUGH with that plan!

A few months ago, we had a bad Sunday morning. Andy was at an early morning meeting. Annie's tights didn't feel good. Emily didn't want to wear a dress (which is never a battle with her, don't know why it was that morning). Ben's boots were too tight, which we only seem to remember on Sunday mornings and no other time during the week! My clothes didn't fit, so I had to change a few times. I was very pregnant and just wanted to stay home in bed and rest. I was in tears, *gently* encouraging the kids to get into the car because I HATE TO BE LATE. (In all honesty, I was in tears during most of my pregnancy - not sad ones, mostly really happy.) This day, I was just feeling overwhelmed. As we got on the on-ramp to get on the highway, there was a cop car on the side of the road with several men in bright orange jumpsuits picking up trash...convicts. Then the real tears started!!! This is why we are still going to our church meetings, even if we might be a few minutes late. This is why my children think I'm a 'mean mom' when they have negative consequences for their actions. This is why I hurry through most of my daily routine - so my kids can learn to choose the right, and what is important, and how to listen for the Holy Ghost to guide their actions, and so they won't be picking up trash on the side of the road on a Sunday morning. I sure hope they learn these things!!!

What else...? I just love my little guys. This past week I've worked really hard to have all dinner prep done (except for today - whoops!) before Ben and Annie get home from school. Then, we've been doing fun things in the afternoon - puzzles, games, coloring, watching a show together, homework (without mom HURRYING to get dinner together or on the computer looking up a quick recipe), talking, or reading books. It has sure been delightful! It's helped make Andy's absence each night a little bit less painful - this whole night-class act is for the birds!!! Okay, I have 10 minutes to find my talapia recipe for tonight and I'm ready for spelling homework from Ben and painting with Annie! Hope you don't have to HURRY through life..

Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Daddy Daughter Dance

Annie's school does an annual Daddy/Daughter Dance. Annie had so much fun getting ready. I talked to the 'head mom' who was planning the event and she needed more help, so I got to go and watch! Annie and I before we all left (in separate cars, so I didn't interfere on their 'date!'). Ben and Emily stayed home with a boy babysitter that they both LOVED! The obligatory before pictures!
Gym was so incredible HOT! This picture makes me sad (and happy). Andy was one of the only dads dancing. Where were the rest of the men??? Most were playing games or surfing the net on their phones...
Secrets chats. Love the corsages! The horticulture department and the local high school made them all. The girls all just beamed getting them and putting them on. The woman handing them out told each Princess to have a fun night.
Before Annie got bored and started to play tag in the halls with a little friend...
Mitchell was my sidekick for the night. He was FABULOUS!!! He loved all the people walking by and saying hello to him. His cheeks MUST have hurt from smiling so much! This is Annie and her little friend, Lauren.
Annie had to go to the bathroom at the end of the night, so Andy took her back out. As soon as they left, the DJ announced that this was the last song. My heart was sad as I helped clean up the refreshments and watched ALL the daddys (or is it 'drop the 'y' and add 'ies') and daughters dance. Then the DJ told all the girls to give their dads a hug and tell him thanks for coming. About 3 minutes later Andy and Annie came bounding back in. Thankfully, there was still music on, so they still had their last dance of the night! Annie told me later this was her favorite part of the evening, as she got to slide around on the dance floor!

Monday, January 24, 2011

Proof that I am a GOOD Mom!

I take pictures of my baby; and I can make him smile!
Wait - maybe it's the dog that makes him smile...
Although sometimes he thinks I am a little bit boring...

Creative Play

My friend and I trade babysitting with our 3 year olds, so every two weeks, we have a free afternoon. This week was so fun! The kids had a snack, not to break up the day but because they were hungry - all moms of play dates will understand that one! This was the fort they built - although neither one thought it was big enough. Why is Jensen shirtless? Well, at the beginning of the day, I was doing dishes when Emily asked me if they could play dress-ups with changing clothes (as kids have gotten older, we've had to set a few more rules on dress ups!). I said yes. I heard them talking in the playroom about ballerinas with swords and knights with goggles. Emily comes out in Annie's ballerina costume. Then, Jensen comes out with his voice muted because he has a knight mask on. "I need help!" I turn to look, and he's got on a mask, a shield, holding a breastplate, and a cute pair of little boy boxers! I helped him switch the shield and breastplate and told him that he can keep his clothes on. His response, "But I want to play dress up too!"

Sure - sorry, Angie, I let him run around in his underwear for a little while. He did have on a shield and breastplate though! AND SOCKS! He stayed warm... After dress ups, he didn't want his shirt back - thus the forts without the shirt! Such cute friends - although they don't really like each other until they start playing. It's quite the interesting relationship!

'Da Boyz

My little Mitchell was so sad one night. I had to quickly finish something, so I propped him on the corner of the couch. I have no idea when he dozed, but he slept like this for a good two hours!Fun with Ben!
More fun with Ben! Ben thinks its great fun to wrap Mitchell up in his robe. Then he acts silly to get Mitchell to smile. Very Cute. And Warm! It has been so incredibly cold here lately!!!

Thursday, January 13, 2011

Mitchell

How we know he is the 4th child: I only have these pictures of him for the entire month of January so far (about 12). After school one day, Ben had to do a report on George Washington. He wanted to hold Mitchell, so he did double duty while I folded clothes with Annie and Emily. Mitchell was completely content! A quick 'hello' and then back to the books!
We've found that Mitchell likes to look at this cute reindeer; it will keep him entertained for periods of time up to 20 minutes or put him to sleep! I'm considering not putting it away with the rest of the Christmas decorations....
Same morning as above. Andy's car was 'broken' and in the shop ($1100 later after 5 days previously buying all new tires for van...grrrr), so he had my car and I had no driving vehicle. It was time to pick up Emily from the bus stop and super-duper cold, so I put Mitchell in his bear. He looked sooooo cute, and he stayed very warm!
That's it for now! He's sleeping fabulous at night, although he doesn't think night-time really starts until 11 or 12; we're still working on that one!!!

Happy New Year!!!

We did a little New Year's Eve party. Kids ran around inside; adults played games; everyone ate! We decided that 8 o'clock would be our celebration time, but we weren't completely ready. SO - we celebrated about 8:07! Happy New Year! I bought hats and blowers. Andy bought poppers; here he's teaching the kids how to use them. I think the big 'kids' had fun too!
The dads lined the kids up so they didn't pop them in anyone's face. Our kids, do that? ;)
The moms, the babies, and the baby-to-be (hiding behind Mitchell).
Our fun neighbor, Miss Linda and her 21 year old daughter came over to join in the end of the festivities. Very fun - the kids threw and re-threw all the confetti over and over again!
Thanks for a great party, Friends!!!

Friday, January 7, 2011

Say Cheese

I'm going out of order a little bit as I took these yesterday, but Mitchell has been smiling for awhile now. I just finally had the camera handy! He is such a little ham. The two easiest times to get him to smile and talk back to me are first thing in the morning when I change his diaper and late at night when I'm telling him that it's time to GO TO SLEEP. He just thinks that is hilarious! But who can resist this?!? He's going to be such a doll when he's older!!! WAIT - he already is! We all love our little guy sooooo much!!
I think the cutest part is Emily introducing him to people. Even her little 3 year old friend, Jensen, calls him Mitchell Michael Maas in conversation. It's just so fun!

Christmas Morning

I snuck upstairs to see that Santa came! (Ben and Dad - fishing poles and tackle box, Mom - Biggest Loser cookbook!, Annie - cash register, Emily - lady bug pillow pet) We all slept in the basement. Ben woke up in the middle of the night with croup. Joy - no, we didn't get much sleep that night!
Christmas morning. Poor Mitchell, I made him stay in my arms all morning. Such a special holiday with a little baby. :) Thought I would hate a winter baby, but a Christmas baby is something sweet!
Months before we were at Toys R' Us, Ben found a Lego set he realllly wanted. I told him the only way for him to have that it would be his only gift from Mom and Dad and Grandma and Grandpa Doerk and maybe even Aunt Jamie. He said that was fine - it was what he realllly wanted! It went on sale a few weeks later, and I was able to snag it, so he did get a few other little gifts. This big box didn't get put under the tree until after the kids went to bed on Christmas Eve - just in case there were little fingers that opened packages (which a few got torn). He had to wait until the VERY end of the morning to open it...see a happy Ben!
Christmas was so incredibly delightful! We didn't rush; we didn't have to be anywhere, there was just us, and we had fun! One aspect that made a bit of a difference was Ben - he lost his voice. So just there, the volume was much lower than normal. Add to that, the girls had one less person to talk over and the volume went down even more. Everyone was just happy. We played games all during the break, all worked together to get the house in order each day, ate mostly healthy things (with a few little peppermint egg nog shakes thrown in the mix), and just enjoyed being a family! It was incredible! I remembered why I loved my husband again...I might need to look back at this in March when he is neck-deep back in law classes and work!
Love my cutie kiddos!!!!

Necktivity

We've been going the 'Nectivity' (according to Ben) each year on Christmas Eve. However, I think that is just too much with our other stuff. Next year we are going to try it on the Family Home Evening before Christmas! Alas - our wicked King Herod and Narrator. Mary
Baby Jesus all swaddled in his white dish towel. (It's a good thing I have so many white dish towels!)
The sleeping shepherd.
The beautiful angel!
And Mom? I was the replacement Mary. I was going to be the wisemen too, but we didn't make it that far this year. Andy and I decided to cut our losses and call it good after the angel came because those shepherds just couldn't travel to see baby Jesus this year (who was moved when the original Mary had to make a pit stop). The shepherd was tired and not feeling great. Nor did he have a voice... Alas - still fun. Maybe next year I'll make real costumes - but the kids quite like putting their own together. We'll see...

Thursday, January 6, 2011

Making Houses

Andy was sick and slept all of one Sunday; we found out the next morning it was strep. I tried to continue our holiday activities we previously planned and the kids did AWESOME! I was planning to have each child build his/her own house, but Ben and Annie really wanted to work together (and consequently argued most of the time, but that is beside the point - they still wanted to work together). So, Emily, Mitchell and I teamed up! Mitchell wasn't much help...slacker!
The finished product! (Disclaimer: I'm absolutely positive that both Annie and Emily consumed at least twice the amount of candy displayed on the houses. However, I decided I didn't care for two reasons: first, I was the only parent and could in no way enforce a limited amount and second, we used the rest of the Halloween candy to decorate houses. At no other time do I let them go free on candy - except decorating houses. No wonder this is something they want to do every year!)
It was amazing the amount of detail B and A put into their 'house.' This was George Washington's army and battlefield. There are soldiers with guns, cannons exploding, bullet-proof walls, barricades and more that I can't remember. I just felt so important because Ben let me eat George Washington - a star burst with frosting; it doesn't get much better than that!
Emily and I worked together well. She told me where to put frosting. She put on the candy. (Mini Oreos with frosting may or may not be very delicious...) Mitchell wanted to join us for the picture!
Then we trooped downstairs to watch The Little Drummer Boy, which I have never seen but really quite liked! Andy walked through to get a drink (I was a little bit busy and couldn't get it for him.) and caught my 'most-evenings balancing act' with the 3 youngest children. Personal space issues, me? Why do you think... Good thing we have a big recliner!!! And, please, if I don't always answer the phone, even if it's right next to me, don't take it personally

Emily's Preschool Party

Ho! Ho! Ho! This little girl was happy to see Santa at her preschool party! This big guy was too - he'll do pretty much anything for Emily. If she says she wants Dad to sit on Santa's lap too, he'll jump on!
After cookies and Santa's visit, we went into the classrooms for some awesome age-appropriate crafts. These are Annie's teachers: Miss Brenda and Miss Stacie. LOVE them! Emily only goes two days for her IEP (speech), but next year I have to figure out how to get her into this program everyday. It is the most amazing preschool class I have seen! Emily quite likes it too!

Tuesday, December 28, 2010

Annie's Christmas Play

I can't find the program, but Annie's kindergarten class did a play called something like, "A Flea on Santa's Tree?" Storyline: Santa needs something to help top his tree. He keeps trying different animals, but it's not working. In the meantime, his guardian angel is getting more and more frustrated with him because he isn't taking care of himself. They performed the play twice to practice with other classes and then twice for 'real' performances where parents were invited. We went to the second parental showing (along with 3 classes). The room was PACKED.

Annie was the Guardian Angel - and MAD that Santa isn't taking a rest! She actually started to cry about the middle (she goes up and down to the microphone 3-4 times) - I think just tired and overwhelmed, but she continued her part! Here, Santa finally found what he needed for the top of his Christmas tree - An Angel!
The end of the play. It was adorable. Poor Annie; she said she was embarrassed because there were so many people. I actually started to tear up along with her. Emily's preschool bus had been in an accident 2 hours prior (she was totally fine; bus wasn't moving - another car just slid into it) and I was still highly emotional.
But - the show must go on! Christmas Eve we had to run to Home Depot for a little present for Andy and found decorations on sale. I have wanted to get something to top our tree for years but couldn't even decide between a star or an angel. This year I finally decided, thanks to Annie's part and my love of angels!!! She is beautiful on our tree!

Monday, December 27, 2010

The Christmas Trees

We have two Christmas trees - a little one we've had since we've been married that the kids are allowed to touch and our one we cut down that they aren't supposed to touch! Emily redecorating!
Our quick 'family' picture on the Sunday before Christmas. Andy had strep throat (but didn't know it yet) and tried to get the kids together while I was finishing getting ready.
Kids didn't completely love the idea, Andy forget the flash, and we're missing one kid - but we have documentation!!! (And yes, I'm the one that curled the girls' hair! yippee!!!)